I wanted to write something brilliant, deep and moving for Valentine’s. You know, come up with something no one else has thought of to say. I now sit at Starbucks enjoying free wifi and my vanilla latte. After working in a tea room that serves great coffee from London, it somehow seems wrong to sit in Starbucks! But I digress. Instead of sharing my own love and loss story, I thought I would share who inspires me in love.
My grandparents, Grandpa now with Jesus, celebrated 60 years of marriage before he passed. Every Tuesday they went dancing and would often stop for supper on their way home. They farmed and raised seven kids. You never felt unloved at Grandma and Grandpa’s. In fact, he broke a lady’s ribs once because he hugged her so tight! Even in the hospital, Grandpa was calling her wifey and darling. I remember that moment of friendship, commitment, and love and asking God for the same thing one day.
This year my parents will celebrate 40 years of marriage. They are such a team on the farm and if you were to get my Dad talking about Mom, he would tear up saying how he loves her more today than ever. And when Dad cries, I cry! They have stuck it through together through church splits, family divorces and neighbours passing – and are a light in their community. I love them so much.
To those who have gone before me in marriage in my family tree – I salute and thank you. I know it wasn’t and isn’t always perfect, but the friendship and commitment you have shown gives me a great foundation to hopefully one day build my own marriage on.
To those I know who take their kids on dates, fight for their marriage, become best friends through dating, and choose to walk in purity – thank you for fighting for true love. Thank you for setting an example for those of us around you. It doesn’t go unnoticed.
In a quest to understand the love of God at a deeper level, I have been reading 1John 4 over and over. So this Valentine’s, I share with you the verse that sticks out to me the most right now…. 1 John 4:20 – “…. If we don’t love people we can see, how can we love God, whom we have not seen?”
Ouch. Sting. Zinger.
Love, after all, is an act of will, not a feeling.
So my dear readers, wherever you are, I hope that you see whoever is in front of you this Valentine’s Day and love them. Be thankful for those in your life who have set an example, and hey, maybe tell them thank you.
Happy Love Day. xo